You just went out an awesome date and pretty soon you know you’ll be spending nights together. Just the thought of this has you smiling from ear to ear…and then all of a sudden this wonderful fantasy turns into a nightmare as you begin stressing out about how your soon-to-be-lover will react when you reveal that you have sleep apnea. After all, CPAP masks don’t exactly scream romantic or sexy.
You know what, though? It’s not the end of the world! Here’s some helpful advice for disclosing this potentially embarrassing information to that special someone:
Mention your sleep apnea when you feel comfortable. It’s not the kind of thing you need to bring up on a first date, but once you begin feeling comfortable with the person you’re seeing, you can broach the subject casually – maybe even make a joke about it. Keep in mind that everyone has something that they’re embarrassed about. By spilling the beans about your sleep apnea and your CPAP therapy, your date may feel comfortable enough to tell you that he or she is diabetic or suffers from anxiety, and this could ultimately bring the two of you closer. Plus, it’s a safe bet that he or she already knows someone who has sleep apnea, so your CPAP mask won’t be too big of a shock.
Explain that your CPAP mask stops you from snoring. You know what’s worse than a bulky CPAP mask? Snoring like a buzzsaw! Explain to your new flame that even though your mask may be unsightly, it’ll prevent you from snoring and help both of you sleep better. Everyone wins!
Don’t worry about how CPAP therapy will affect your sex life. What if your partner is turned off after seeing you with your CPAP mask on? This is a common fear among CPAP users – a fear that causes some people to stop using their masks when they’re with that special someone – but studies have shown that all this worrying is for nothing. According to the American College of Chest Physicians CPAP compliance doesn’t interfere with the quality of your sex life. So there you have it: There’s no reason not to continue with your CPAP therapy on the nights when you’re sharing your bed with your partner.
Chances are the lovely new person in your life will be totally understanding of your sleep apnea. And if not? Well, hey, sounds like this person isn’t worthy of your dashing good looks and winning personality in the first place! Whew – dodged a bullet.